The wedding I was married in was for two couples in the same town. We had a large reception for the 250 guests from both sides.
A wedding is a wedding is a wedding, right? It may not be too much to ask, but I’m sure the bride and groom would prefer that it were all pink and lavender.
Wedding is a big deal, of course, but it’s not that big a deal for the bride and groom. For most couples, the wedding is just a big party for the reception attendees. For you, the wedding is an opportunity to do something special for someone special. Something that’s actually important to you.
Wedding planning is a big deal, but for me, it’s just something fun to do. It’s not like I’m going to put a million miles of red tape into a proposal, or get a million flowers in a vase. In fact, I don’t even have a wedding. I’ll just be at the party and be happy to be there.
That’s pretty much how I feel about weddings. The only way I can justify it is that I’m marrying a person who loves me and is a part of my life now. And with no engagement rings or flowers or anything, I don’t have to worry about getting them.
And for those of you who want to get married, I cannot stress how important you are to each other, and how important getting married is for you. A wedding is a wedding. No matter what color you are, whether you have a dress or a ring or anything else, you are the bride, and you have to wear that dress and be the bride.
While I would never want to go back to what I had before marriage, I have no sympathy for anyone who would. And I also have no sympathy for anyone who finds marriage to be a mistake. After all, if you just stop looking for that perfect man, you’re probably in for a long, hard, and hard-to-get-to-after.
I know this might seem like the most important thing in the world, but it is. The fact is that even if you’ve never been married, you have to figure out what it means to be married.
I don’t know why I’m so obsessed with this subject. I guess it is because I was married for eight years and I’m still married to the same person. And honestly, I’m not sure that marriage is something you should do on the first try. I agree with my friend, Matt, that it is a good idea to have at least a little bit of faith, and that you should have some sort of “experience” as a couple.
Yes, even in the midst of wedding planning, it is very easy to get carried away with the wedding party and forget what it feels like to actually be married. I’ve been married for eight years and I have never felt as unfulfilled as I did when I was engaged. My family has always been very supportive, but it was always a little easier to make it through the planning phase of a wedding than to actually do it.